Friday, December 18, 2009
Happy Holidays
Thursday, November 26, 2009
Thursday, November 19, 2009
Offspring
Part two of the Confessions installment. I am having fun writing! Hope you are having fun reading. This is an interesting new challenge for me.
Offspring
Carole lay in the bed that night, feeling bloated and out of sorts. Her husband’s rhythmic snores irritated her as she contemplated the events of the day. Lying in the dark like this, it was easy for Carole to admit that she was angry about so many things. Mainly, she was mad at herself for gaining weight in the first place. She reached down and adjusted her waistband, suddenly appalled that even her flannel PJs were growing tight around her stomach. Rolling over on her side, a tear trickled out of the corner of her eye. She didn’t even bother wiping it away.
When morning finally came, Carole dressed and stepped around the same orange gift bag that had been her bedroom floor since Kelly’s birthday party last week. She maneuvered around a Webkinz and headed down the steps, noting that her husband had finally removed his single hiking boot from the bottom step. She went through her morning routine, flipping on the fireplace and starting the coffee pot before heading upstairs to coax Kelly and Sam out of bed.
------Kelly------
I watched my mom moving about in the kitchen and I totally knew that there was a problem. So far, she had opened the fridge three times, but had yet to get me my orange juice. “Mom, orange juice please,” I reminded her.
“Kelly, please don’t use that tone with me. I just forgot,” snapped my mom. My mom was dressed in some old sweat pants and a big t-shirt and I watched her open the huge stainless steel fridge, again. This time she came out with a jug of OJ in hand. It’s about time, I thought, trying not to speak out loud. I secretly hoped that nobody I knew would see my mom. She absolutely looked awful with a greasy ponytail and bags under her eyes. No make-up, of course. Totally embarrassing I thought, vowing to never let myself go the way mom had.
“I need a snack,” I said, trying to keep my tone neutral. I watched in amazement as my mom dropped an entire, unpeeled apple in my black Quicksilver backpack, “I don’t like the peel on my apples.”
“Tough, I don’t like outgrowing my clothes,” snapped my mom.
“If you’re worried about your weight, why did you eat all of those enchiladas last night?” I asked, waiting for the explosion. I bent down and pretended to be looking for my tennis shoe. It seemed one of my pink Vans had gotten misplaced. I much preferred flip-flops, or my slip-on Vans, but it was a P.E. day. I finally glanced up to see why my mom hadn’t started yelling yet, but the kitchen was empty, except for my little sister, Sam. Sam’s brown eyes were as big as saucers and she held her spoon suspended in the air over her yogurt container.
“I can’t believe you said that to mom,” Sam said with her 5-year-old jaw hanging open.
“I can’t believe mom is surprised she’s gained weight,” I retorted. “Have you seen my pink Vans? I’m missing one.”
“It’s with your skateboard,” mumbled my little sister as she dipped her spoon back into her yogurt. My sister always ate yogurt and a banana for breakfast. Disgusting.
“I’m going to school.” I slammed the garage door, threw the apple in the trashcan and put on my other shoe. I always wear pink shoes. I grabbed my skateboard and headed down the street thinking about how I would never let myself be like my mom.
Thursday, November 12, 2009
News Not Welcome
Carole Cline knew that she was a perfectionist. She was particularly obsessive about her appearance and knew lots of tricks for hiding problem spots (her waist). Her favorite was when her pants actually fit, but in desperate times she attached a rubber band through the buttonhole and around the button, thus allowing her pants to grow with her midsection. She picked up the Spanx from her closet floor and held it on the tip of her finger, regarding it with the same distaste she had for dirty diapers. She’d tried repeatedly to wear the under garment, but had only succeeded in keeping it on once…it rolled down her midsection the entire time she had it on and decided it was easier to just look fat. Too bad she couldn’t return it since it cost an arm and a leg. But lately Carole just wore sweats with an elastic waist. She could get away with that since she worked from home.
The doorknob on the closet door jiggled and Carole threw one of her husband’s old t-shirts over her sports bra, “Can’t I get a moment to myself?” she snapped at the five-year-old pushing through the door? Carole thought for sure she could hide in the closet long enough to regain her composure, but she was a mom and she had realized long ago that moms rarely found escape from their children. Besides, her kids had some sort of internal radar that led them right to her, whether she was in the tub or in the depths of the basement storage room.
“Sorry, honey. Mommy just got yucky news today.” After all, thought Carole, this was her problem, not her daughter’s. Stepping around the Spanx box, Carole followed her little girl downstairs, maneuvering around an orange gift bag, a menagerie of Littlest Pet Shop toys and one hiking boot (man’s size 8).
“Mom, I’m hungry. I want a peanut butter sandwich and applesauce,” whined Carole’s daughter, Sam, possibly the skinniest child ever.
“No honey, tonight we are having something good.” Carole, who rarely cooked, pulled a beer out of the fridge, steeled herself with a long swallow, and proceeded to prepare a meal of epic proportions. When she sat down to eat with her family, she ate as if she were the skinniest 20-year-old on Earth. Only Carole (who was only about 18 years past 20) and her doctor (tall and skinny, of course) knew that she was on the verge of being obese.
Thursday, November 5, 2009
Series In Progress
Thursday, October 22, 2009
Sick Leave
Monday, October 19, 2009
The Motherhood Muse
Thursday, October 8, 2009
A Novel Idea
Thursday, October 1, 2009
Take A Break
Thursday, September 24, 2009
Keep Knocking
Thursday, September 17, 2009
Conversation With a Regional Editor
Thursday, September 10, 2009
I Am A Writer. Aren't I?
Thursday, September 3, 2009
Signs
Saturday, August 29, 2009
Kreativ Blogger Award
Thursday, August 27, 2009
Encourage One Another
Wednesday, August 19, 2009
Slow and Steady
Thursday, August 13, 2009
Save Time, Organize Your Space. NOW.
Thursday, August 6, 2009
On Your Mark, Get Set, GOALS!
Thursday, July 30, 2009
Assess Your Achievements
Thursday, July 23, 2009
Summer Slow Down
Thursday, July 16, 2009
Submitting More Than One Article at a Time (To RPPs)
Friday, June 26, 2009
Moving Madness
Thursday, June 18, 2009
Simultaneous Submission vs Reprint
Thursday, June 11, 2009
Essays and Regional Publications
Thursday, June 4, 2009
Does Relaxation Equal Greater Comittment?
Wednesday, June 3, 2009
Link to Interview With Author Stephanie Riseley
Monday, June 1, 2009
On Vacation
Tuesday, May 19, 2009
Interview With Christina Katz
I am pleased to host author Christina Katz today as she answers questions about her book Get Known Before The Book Deal.
Q: What is a platform?
- They don’t spend time clarifying who they are to others.
- They don’t zoom in specifically on what they offer.
- They confuse socializing with platform development.
- They think about themselves too much and their audience not enough.
- They don’t precisely articulate all they offer so others get it immediately.
- They don’t create a plan before they jump online.
- They undervalue the platform they already have.
- They are overconfident and think they have a solid platform when they have only made a beginning.
- They become exhausted from trying to figure out platform as they go.
- They pay for “insider secrets” instead of trusting their own instincts.
- They blog like crazy for six months and then look at their bank accounts and abandon the process as going nowhere.
I’ll stop there. Suffice it to say that many writers promise publishers they have the ability to make readers seek out and purchase their book. But when it comes time to demonstrate this ability, they can’t deliver.
Christina Katz is the author of Get Known Before the Book Deal, Use Your Personal Strengths to Grow an Author Platform (Writer’s Digest Books). She started her platform “for fun” seven years ago and ended up on “Good Morning America.” Christina teaches e-courses on platform development and writing nonfiction for publication. Her students are published in national magazines and land agents and book deals. Christina has been encouraging reluctant platform builders via her e-zines for five years, has written hundreds of articles for national, regional, and online publications, and is a monthly columnist for the Willamette Writer. A popular speaker at writing conferences, writing programs, libraries, and bookstores, she hosts the Northwest Author Series in Wilsonville, Oregon. She is also the author of Writer Mama, How to Raise a Writing Career Alongside Your Kids (Writer’s Digest Books).
Thursday, May 14, 2009
Differing Opinions About RPPs
Sunday, May 10, 2009
Thursday, May 7, 2009
Motivate Me!
Thursday, April 30, 2009
Finding An Expert
Thursday, April 23, 2009
Submitting To Regionals
Saturday, April 18, 2009
Advice From Cup Of Comfort Editor...
Thursday, April 16, 2009
Writing For Regionals
Friday, April 3, 2009
Epiphany!
Monday, March 30, 2009
I Totally Forgot...
Sunday, March 29, 2009
And The Winner Is...
Saturday, March 28, 2009
Seven Hundred Fifty
Friday, March 27, 2009
Celebrating the Writer Mama Anniversary Tour with Guest Blogger Christina Katz
Every so often you meet a person who is truly dedicated to helping others succeed. I believe that Christina Katz is one of those people. The author of two books, Writer Mama and Get Known Before The Book Deal, Christina has helped many, many writers achieve success.
What I have learned from Christina has truly changed my life. One year ago, I thought my career options were limited. Now, my options are limitless. I am developing a writing career that I am proud of, while spending time with the children I love. The book that started it all for me, Writer Mama, is celebrating its two-year anniversary this month. Leave a comment after this post, and you could receive a signed, numbered copy of Writer Mama.
Thanks for stopping by my blog on your whirlwind tour, Christina!
Here’s the kind of information you’ll be asked for in an author questionnaire: Your complete contact information Your college affiliations Your alumni publication contact info Magazines and newspapers you have contributed to Local newspapers Your agent’s contact info A list of organizations of which you are a member Any honors or awards you have received A list of periodicals and/or reviewers not already listed A list of local radio/news stations A list of folks who might blurb or review your book A short description of your book that emphasizes its selling points Be sure to ask for your author questionnaire after you have submitted your book, if you’ve not received it already. You’ll want to give your publisher as much time as possible to contact your list. But never presume that your publisher is going to contact everyone on your list. Generally speaking, publishers focus their promotional efforts on a small selection of frontlist titles. So consider yourself the primary, full-time publicist and booking agent for your book and your book launch events.
Thursday, March 26, 2009
Ebb and Flow
Today, I feel calm. I feel like my writing is taking on a natural ebb and flow. My goals and responsibilities are achievable if I refuse to allow stress to overtake me. I can play with my kids, write a spur-of-the-moment essay (and submit it), turn in my monthly Military Spouse column (before the deadline), complete my assignments in writing class and do the laundry. Heck, I've even watched Twilight twice this week.
I firmly believe that, when we are where we are supposed to be, that there truly is a natural ability to achieve. I am not suggesting that we can sit on our bums watching soaps all day, waiting for inspiration to join us on the couch. I am suggesting that we really can achieve a balance in our lives if we don't fight against the natural rhythms of our current situation.
I like feeling this way. I will revisit this post when I get harried and bogged down with life's demands.
Friday, March 20, 2009
Seriously...
I did.
Today I purchased my domain name and have begun the process of creating a website. I feel so grown-up!
Why did I make this (to me) leap? Because I am missing out on some serious self-promotion opportunities. Every time I send an editor a bio, I cringe because I have no website tagged to the end. I know, I could put my blog address, but that just didn't seem right to me. For me, it wasn't exactly what I wanted to project to my readers or possible employers.
Backup--did I say self promotion? Yes indeed, I did. Let me explain something that I have learned in this business--this is a big one. If I don't put myself out there, I won't be "out there." I don't magically pop into editor's heads for a great writing assignment, I don't mystically get selected for a blog tour and I don't mysteriously become a reputable writer if I sit in my office closet all day just waiting. I have to make the first move.
My career as a freelance writer only started thirteen months ago. Since then, I have said at least 100 times, "I was just in the right place at the right time." That is not true. The truth is, I put myself in the right place at the right time.
So I am building a website. It might look hokey for a few months while I get the hang of things. It will probably drop off of my radar for a while as life temporarily takes over career aspirations for a while. But I will have a web presence, my published clips will (eventually) be available on my website and I will be putting myself out there.
A website is the right step for me right now.
I firmly believe that, for each of us, regardless of our career status, NOW is the time to make our presence known.
Thursday, March 19, 2009
Balancing Act
Tuesday I spent the entire day working on an assignment for Pitching Practice with Christina Katz. In between driving the carpool and attending a meeting, of course.
Wednesday was all about my children.
Thursday I am back in the office.
Friday I have a string of commitments beginning with a doctors appointment at 7:30am and ending with a movie night for my kids and two friends at 9pm.
Next week is Spring Break.
How do we busy moms balance it all? Sometimes, I feel like I don't! Working from home is a blessing and a curse all at once. On Tuesday and Thursday my writer-self either cleans frantically before the girls leave for school or runs from the door to my office, ignoring breakfast dishes on the table, unmade beds and piles of laundry.
Sure, no boss is breathing down my back. But, no boss is breathing down my back. My workload is up to me. It is my responsibility to set and achieve goals. I must be accountable for my career.
And I love it! Being responsible, both for successes and failures, is one of the best parts of this job. I am absolutely free to do what I want and to do it to the best of my ability. And next week, when Spring Break cuts my writing time severely, I won't have to "ask" for time off to take my kids to the zoo.
Kudos to each of you who are tackling the balancing act. Keep up the good work.
Tuesday, March 10, 2009
Blogging
I am overwhelmed by all of the blogs available for reading. How do I choose which ones to read? I could use all of my writing time reading other people's blogs. I would learn a lot, but I wouldn't get much done.
So how do you choose which writing-related blogs to read, how much time to spend on blogs and blogging? Do you set aside a certain amount of time each day? Do you choose one or two blogs per day to read, risking the chance of getting behind on the others?
Perhaps most overwhelming of all is my realization at just how much competition is out there. Everyone seems to have something to say!
Thoughts to ponder...
Tuesday, March 3, 2009
Take My Advice...
I just completed writing an article that outlines ways to spend quality time with your children. As I interviewed my specialist and began writing the article, I felt more and more guilty. Do I spend enough time with my daughters? Well, of course I am with them a lot of the time, but do I actually take advantage of the time we have together?
No, I do not.
I learned that I need to re-prioritize.
Meals must be cooked, laundry must be folded and yes, sometimes I just need a break. I have realized that those things would happen more quickly if I would first carve out some time with my kids to play and enjoy their imaginative minds.
I am going to make a new commitment to myself and my children. I am going to read my own article and then do what it says!
I wonder what I will learn from my next article...
Saturday, February 28, 2009
Momentum...
My momentum has had a meltdown of sorts. Who knew that February would be such a busy month? A week-long vacation and a visit from family and Poof--February is suddenly March. Wow.
But, much to my own surprise, I have managed to complete my monthly goals. In all honesty, I will probably complete February's final goal during the first week of March--but I can live with that.
Just like I seem to be living with writing. It is becoming a natural part of my day, my week and my month. It seems natural to clear my desk, jot down my list of goals and go to bed knowing that the next day will be productive. I am pleased with my progress, which helps my momentum, thus increasing my production!
We should never underestimate the value of clearly defined goals.
Friday, February 6, 2009
Double Whammy!
Of course I was disappointed, but I feel really good, too.
One year ago, I had no idea I could be a freelance writer. One year ago, I had never heard of Writer Mama, I had no idea that I could write and submit articles to regional publications, and I didn't even know Military Spouse Magazine even existed.
I have had articles published in over 10 regional publications and have had an essay picked up by a national magazine. I write a monthly column for an international magazine. I have come so far, how can I be discouraged? Receiving rejections means that I am persevering, learning and trying. And for goodness sake, I only work about 12 hours a week!
It is so hard to be rejected. It is so good to be writing.
Thursday, January 29, 2009
I HATE Interviews. I LOVE interviews.
Why? I DON"T KNOW! My hands get sweaty, I trip over my words.
So lets imagine how it is for me to schedule an interview and then have to conduct it. I get so nervous before hand that I could throw up. I hate the way my voice sounds on tape and I think it about it the entire time. I shake like a leaf just trying to dial the number.
Then I get started talking to the person I am interviewing. I learn so much. Sure, I am able to write an article much easier after speaking with an expert, but it is also a real time of growth for me.
Today I talked with Andi Grant, founder of Give2TheTroops. What an amazing person. She works full time and dedicates an unthinkable number of hours to her her organization each week. Talk about changing lives and being a motivational figure. Wow!
Find out how you can help Andi and thousands of other volunteers support our troops by visiting the website Give2TheTroops.org.
I wish I could hang on to this euphoric feeling for my next interview...but I know that it will be more sweaty palms and shaky hands...